Men...

You know what? A lot of the blogs I read are that of single ladies, which isn't so weird because let's face it: 1)I love to hear about dating disasters when it's not including me and 2)lots more women seem to be single these days. 

We've all been there--dates from hell. And while I will refrain from sharing my horror stories since I know some of my readers consist of my family, trust me, I've been there. But here's some advice from a newly-ish wed in how to weed out the winners from the over abundance of losers.

1) Find a man that treats his mother well....do not confuse this with the dreaded momma's boy who MAY have just come up for air after 25 years of breast feeding. You do not want him to go from mommy to you right away--this man should not live at home still or he will expect you to be his "replacement" and hold his hand every step of the way. While it's nice to take care of your man, it's a super turn off for them to NEED you to take care of them. If he's been on his own and knows how the real world works and treats his mom well and loves her after all is said and done :he may be a keeper.

2) Find a man that has ambition. Some men talk and talk and taaaaaaalk about how amazing they will be someday. More often than not they're blowing steam our their behind, but sometimes men need a good strong woman to support theme and they can make these dreams and goals come true. Does your man have a million and one dreams ? He may be a flake--that shows he can't commit (to ideas or even a woman). Make sure he's got only a couple crazy plans, that's more manageable.

3) Find a "friendly" man. I always liked to judge a guy by their friends. Does he have seemingly endless friends? Run,run away fast. Social butterflies (to the extreme) are relationship killers. Find a guy who has a handful if close friends that he's had for a while--preferably these friends have their sh!t together and it will help influence your man. Guys generally don't know what the heck they want until someone else shows them how great it is. 

4) Find a man that can laugh at himself (and you in a non-jerk way). If you can't find the humour in life and have someone to laugh with, it's really, really, REALLY not a road worth travelling down. 

5) Find someone with different interests but same beliefs. A life where you agree on everything and do the same stuff always is boring. If you have different interests, you will encourage each other to try new things. Yet, if your beliefs are different, well...there's no meeting in the middle there.

There you have it folks, 5 of my rules for dating. Keep those standards high :) you are trying to ind someone worth spending the majority of your days walking this earth with !:)